“I ain’t ‘bout to sit here and name her” — Lecrae


Now nine years later, I am confident in why I am protecting this person.

What I have always believed is that, I missed my best shot at the justice that matters because I did not get a sexual assault exam.

That’s never how I wanted my story to be told.

I understand why the #metoo movement got so much bad press, but it also did so much for survivors like me. It showed us that we aren’t alone. It showed us that this problem is way bigger than we can solve in a decade, two decades, a lifetime.

It showed us that no matter what- if we use our voice, there are people who are waiting to defend us.

It gave us a united voice in two simple words. Me too.

But for me, even saying me too is too messy…

For nine years, I’ve silently dealt with the belief that the weight of one person‘s name could ruin my reputation. I am acutely aware that he could remember that night very differently. He might have a story from that night that might sound valid. But the $13,000 bill (I owe $1,700) to a mental health stabilization unit and the countless money spent on therapy off and on is my proof that what he did was not OK.

I allowed his actions to rush into the life that the trauma interrupted.

What I mean by this is that: he hurt me while I was fighting to be a journalist. The assault made me rush into a career still holding on to the pain and the triggers that still exist until this day.



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Amber Worthy

Amber Worthy

A sexual assault survivor coming to grips with what justice looks like after 9 years. Providing hope for others who find power in sharing their story.